Family road trips are the BEST!

Family road trips are the best!

Your children are only young for a short time, so don’t waste the chance to spend time with them.

When we began our business, we weren’t moving forward as fast as we hoped. We didn’t understand why. We kept going, but it felt very slow—like a snail. We didn’t feel like we were making any progress.

During this time, we went on a long family trip. We packed our four kids into the car and drove from Colorado to Red Lake, Canada. If you don’t know about Red Lake, it’s up north from where Minnesota and Canada meet, about seven hours away. The drive was great. We spent a whole day in the car and saw many amazing things along the way.
 
During the drive, we got a chance to talk and bond with each other. That’s why we enjoy driving—it gives us time to reconnect as a family, which is great. We discussed our business and what we wanted to achieve with it. Without even writing anything down, we made our business plan and set goals.
 
We had a fantastic week in Canada, enjoying every moment. We rented a small fishing boat and caught lots of fish. Our youngest son caught his first pike! Our oldest caught a small-mouth bass. We didn’t think it was a big deal, but the locals told us it’s a rare catch in those lakes. We also took a biplane tour of the lake, seeing bears and even two bull moose from the air. We laughed about the plural of moose—is it Meese? Who knows! One evening, my wife and I went for a drive on a dirt road until sunset. It was an amazing experience. And of course, we had to try poutine, a Canadian fry dish. It was delicious, eh?
 
After leaving Red Lake, we drove to Pennsylvania, spending another 24 hours in the car. Throughout the trip, our family continued to bond. Our kids got along well, and my wife and I talked about everything. As we left Wisconsin, we both had the same idea: why not make God the CEO of our company? It wouldn’t be ours anymore; we’d run his business! We were as excited about this idea as when we found out we were going to have kids! It felt like something out of a movie—we both said it at the same time.
 
After that, there wasn’t much to talk about. We decided: We didn’t own the company anymore; God did. Our job was to work for him and run it his way. We prayed before all meetings and included verses on all our web pages. It’s His company; we’re just here to run it as His stewards.
 
We began making changes right away. Instead of saying the company was ours, we called it what it was. I changed my title from CEO to COO and announced that God was the new CEO of Eclipse. Almost right away, things started improving, and the company began moving forward again.
 
We spent the next week in Pennsylvania at a family camp. It was so much fun! Our kids enjoyed it. If you ever have the opportunity to be a chaperone at a family camp, go for it. Bring your kids and let them have some fun while you keep an eye on them, join in, and have a great time together. We’ll always remember these moments.
 
Then we drove to West Texas for work, another 24-hour drive. We spent the week there and then headed back to colorful Colorado.
 
This trip changed our lives forever.
 
We made choices that helped us reduce stress. We bonded as a family and grew in ways we never imagined. I truly believe that if we hadn’t taken this trip, our business wouldn’t have God as its CEO. I’m grateful He guided us to prioritize family time. He showed me that time is our most precious thing. We can make more money and make new friends, but we can never get back a moment of our day.
 
Your kids are only young once, so don’t waste your time with them.
 
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Family, Spending time where it matters

Family and Spending Time Where It Matters

If you’ve been checking my social media, you might have noticed that I’ve been spending more time with my family, and we’ve been traveling a lot.

We’ve been driving a lot because it’s expensive to fly six people, but we enjoy being together in the car and seeing all the amazing things God created.

It felt like we blinked, and our oldest son turned 14! Then we realized we only have 4 more years until he probably moves out and starts his own life. We want to make the most of this time together.

So, we decided to stop spending money on unnecessary things and instead focus on creating memories. 

One thing we did was sit down with all the kids and ask them where they wanted to go and what they wanted to do.

We got a variety of responses!

Some were exciting, while others were heartwarming. Our daughter said she wanted to learn more about fixing things. One son said he wanted to spend more time together as a family. And of course, one wanted to do more hunting, especially in exotic places.

All of this got us thinking.

None of them asked for more things! They didn’t want us to buy toys or gadgets. They wanted us to give them experience. And that’s exactly what we wanted, too. Less stuff and more memories.

Have you ever sat down with your kids and asked them what they truly wanted? Not about gifts for Christmas or their birthday, but about what they want to do, where they want to go, or what experiences they want to have.

You see, we’ve taught our children everywhere that when we ask them what they want, they usually ask for stuff, not experience. That’s because, whether you realize it or not, we’ve trained them to ask for stuff. Do you know why? It’s because giving stuff is easier than giving an experience. It’s much quicker to go on Amazon and buy a dollhouse than to build one for your daughter.

I want you to do something today: go home and talk to your family about the experiences you remember from your childhood. Like fishing with your grandpa, fixing a truck with your dad, baking cakes with your mom, riding in a tractor with your other grandpa, or baking bread with your grandma. As you talk about your memories, pay attention to what makes your kids excited.

I also want you to think back and try to remember the toys that excited you the most. Can you remember any of them? Do you still have any? I do. One Christmas, I got a few remote-control toys. They brought me a lot of joy. But now, seeing my kids play with them brings even more joy! You see, I used to think that the toys themselves made me happy, but it’s the experience of playing with them and now watching my kids play with the same toys that brings me true happiness.

It was never the things in my life that made me happy; it was the experiences I remember. With that in mind, what can you do to create more experiences for your family? How can you be there for your kids in a way that they’ll always remember?

I promise you that taking a family trip to San Diego and eating at your favorite hamburger place in Ocean Beach (Hodads) will bring more joy and leave a longer-lasting memory than buying them a new phone every year!

Go out and create wonderful memories with your family while you still can!

As for me, keep an eye on my  Facebook and Instagram to see where life takes us in the next few years!

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Find A Way

Find a Way

When we try, we can always find a solution to make things work.

Take a few moments to read these verses.

A few guys brought a man who couldn’t move his body on a small bed and wanted to show him to Jesus. But they couldn’t get through the crowd blocking the door. So, they climbed up on the roof, made a hole, and lowered the man down with ropes, right in front of Jesus. Luke 5:18–19

These guys were carrying the paralyzed man, maybe about 6–10 of them. They wanted to reach Jesus in the crowd so the paralyzed man could be healed. But they couldn’t push through the crowd. So, they started searching for another way to get him to Jesus. Then, one of them had an idea: “Let’s carry him up onto the roof and lower him down!

At that moment, some guys started to feel unsure. They said, “No, it won’t work.” Now, there were only 4-5 guys left to help. One climbed up on the roof and started making a hole. Meanwhile, a couple of others figured out how to get the paralyzed man up on the roof. Yet another group started working on a way to lower him down.

I imagine one of them stayed with the paralyzed man, keeping him updated. Like a sports announcer, saying, “Jim made it up onto the roof and found a good spot. Now he’s taking off the cover. Oh, Ben and Mike found some long poles, and they’re setting them up like an A to lift you. Here comes John with some rope.”

Do you feel how exciting this is? Everyone is working together for the same goal! Here’s something interesting: None of these guys who are still helping would give up.

When the crowd blocked them, they searched for a different way. Even when their first plan failed, they didn’t give up. They kept searching and searching until they found a way that worked.

Many times, when things get hard, we quit. We give up and say, “I can’t do it,” or “It’s impossible.”

The truth is, it’s possible! If you believe that God is helping you, you can do anything!

Today, we want to tell you to never quit. When things get hard, you need to get stronger and find a solution to make it work. Never give up! With God, everything is possible.

Prayer:

Dear God, today we ask for strength. Strength to stay strong even when things don’t go as we planned. Strength when we can’t seem to find a solution. God, we believe in your greatness, and we know that with you, all things are possible. We understand that you are working through us, and we are grateful to be part of your mission. Help us recognize your presence and assistance. Just like the stonecutter who kept swinging until the 102nd swing broke the stone and revealed an amazing geode. What if he had stopped at 50, 75, or even 101 swings? He never knew how close he was until it broke open. Give us the same strength to keep going and never give up. Thank you, Lord, for everything you have done for us. Amen.

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Find Your Inspiration OUTSIDE of Your Comfort Zone

Find your inspiration outside of your comfort zone.

Firstly, I want to take a moment to say thank you.

Thank you for allowing me to share these with you.

Thank you for spending a few moments reading them. Now, let’s have some fun! Today, I’m going to tell you about the coolest live event I’ve ever been to. It was hosted by Russell Brunson and the Click Funnels team, and it’s called Funnel Hacking Live.

Strange name, isn’t it? I began following Russell Brunson in January 2021. Honestly, I first heard about him in March 2020, when he was promoted along with Dean Graziosi and Tony Robbins. That’s when I first learned about Russell Brunson.

He’s a marketing expert who knows how to sell to many people at once. He shares similar beliefs with me and enjoys spending time with his family. It took me some time to start following him, though. I think it was around November 2020 when I finally decided to buy his perfect webinar training.

By January, I had purchased all three of his books. Then, by June, I had bought tickets to a live event he hosts every year called Funnel Hacking Live. As an entrepreneur, this was the most exciting live event.

To be honest, it was a bit overwhelming. I started wondering what I’d gotten myself into. As I made my way to the event registration, I saw many people wearing branded shirts, backpacks, caps, and more. I could attend to help with our business.

I got to Orlando, took an Uber to the hotel, checked into my room, and then headed to the event check-in. As I walked in, I was very doubtful about everything and everyone. (Not judging, just skeptical.)

When I finally got to the check-in area, everything was done on a computer. I filled out a simple form, then walked a bit more and saw about 20 people ready to assist me.

It felt nice. They asked for my shirt size, then gave me a box with Click Funnels branding, along with a name tag and a wristband. I don’t like wearing name tags. Then, I went back to my room to see what was inside the box.

They gave each person some cool stuff: a tumbler, notebook, t-shirt, a few pens, and some other small goodies, all with Click Funnels branding. But there was no schedule included!

So, I went back to the check-in area and saw that the schedule was posted all over the walls of the hotel. I quickly took a picture of it so I could remember everything.

I saw that the first session started that afternoon. I didn’t want to be late, so I planned to be there about 30 minutes before the doors opened. When I got back, about 1500 people were waiting in the hotel hallway.

One thing to know about me is that I’m not afraid when I’m on stage or hosting an event. But when I’m just attending, it’s a whole different story. I was nervous, to be honest.

Anyway, I walked past most of the crowd and found a nice spot near the doors, so I could get a good seat. When they opened the doors, there was a big rush of people all running to the front to grab the best seats they could find.

One thing to know about me is that I don’t rush to get a good seat. I just walk casually, not showing how nervous I am. Anyway…

As I walked to the other side of the room and then up to the front section, closest to the stage, I noticed there were one or two empty seats. I asked the people next to me if I could take one of them. Voila! I had an amazing seat for whatever was about to happen next.

The next four days went by quickly. I took over 40 pages of notes. I got to see Tony Robbins in person. I talked to people I didn’t know about our business. I also advised strangers about their businesses after hearing about their struggles.

We began early and ended late each day. Every time, I had the perfect seat, thanks to God. This event felt like attending a four-day rock concert.

The atmosphere was incredible lights, an MC to keep things going, a DJ to set the mood, cameras everywhere, enthusiastic people, and lots to learn. When I booked my tickets, I planned not to fly out until the afternoon after the event ended.

It was the best decision I ever made. The next day, as I walked through where Funnel Hacking Live took place the night before, it felt completely different. It was like the quiet after a big storm.

The hotel staff had taken apart the room, and the stage was being dismantled to get ready for the next event. What was packed with 3500 people the night before is now empty! There were only about three people there who weren’t hotel staff.

One lady was sitting on a couch with her computer, and another guy was sitting at a table with his computer. As for me, I was typing up a devotional. The past three days have inspired me.

I checked the time and realized I needed to leave. I only had about 30 minutes to pack everything and get to the lobby to meet my ride to the airport. As I walked past the other two people sitting there, I greeted each of them with a “hi.”

Then I felt like I should talk more to the lady on the couch. She seemed a bit worried. After chatting for a while, I found out she was Amanda Holmes, Chet Holmes’ daughter. Chet wrote the book “The Ultimate Sales Machine,” and she was working on rewriting it.

We chatted for a bit, and I mostly listened as she talked about her struggles with a particular chapter. She mentioned how she had rewritten it several times, but it just kept getting longer and longer.

Then she said, “I could write a whole book just on this one topic.” My response surprised her: “Then go for it! What’s stopping you from making a sequel to this book that goes deeper into this topic?”

I had to go, but she was thankful for the advice I gave her. I’ve been to lots of live events in different industries, but this was the best one ever. Now, my goal is to create something similar in my industry soon.

My main point is that I felt uncomfortable when I arrived. But by the end, I felt a bit better. And this year, I’m thrilled to get another chance to go!

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From the Heart

From the Heart

I was in my mid-twenties when I had the chance to travel to Reno, NV, and deliver a 5-minute speech for the National Grange.

Standing on stage in front of the whole convention and delivering my speech felt amazing. I bring a lot of energy to the stage, which is something you should know about me. It’s a cool experience overall.

I spoke at a conference in Colorado with around 150 people. We arrived the night before. The next morning, we sat and listened to the presenters. It was a big event.

They were all nice people, but they seemed a bit nervous and serious when they stood in front of the group. My turn to speak was scheduled for just after 10 a.m.

Sam, a member of my team, accompanied me as I swiftly passed him my truck keys. “Quickly head to the store,” I instructed, “and purchase a candy bar for everyone present. We’re commencing in 45 minutes, so no dawdling!”

He dashed to the truck and sped to the store, buying plenty of candy bars for everyone. He returned just five minutes before my presentation. We distributed the candy bars, and as they signaled me, I hurried from the back to the front of the room, beginning the presentation.

After that 45-minute presentation, I felt completely exhausted for the whole day. Many approached me afterward, saying, “You’re amazing! I was nodding off before you started, but I stayed alert and took lots of notes during your talk. Thanks for being here!”

Moving on…

Now, back to my speech for the National Grange. While preparing, they mentioned that there was a podium available. I grabbed my speech and headed there, ready to deliver it.

I tilted my head to the side, like a dog hearing a high-pitched sound, and asked, “Can I have a handheld mic, please?”

They agreed. Then, the woman in charge reminded me I only had 5 minutes! She warned that at the 5-minute mark, they’d cut off my mic.

Awesome! As I stepped onto the stage where many great singers had performed, I sensed their presence. Suddenly, my nerves vanished, and I began speaking. The more I spoke, the more comfortable I became.

After the speech, I was filled with immense energy! The passion and fervor in my delivery were palpable to everyone present. The speech centered on the importance of having God in your life.

I wish I had a video or just the audio of it. Finally, I wrapped up at 4 minutes and 59 seconds. As I walked off the stage to applause, I realized that being in front of groups was where I belonged.

Throughout the entire speech, I felt a powerful presence, causing the hairs on my arms to stand up. The best part came afterward when many approached me, surprised, saying, “I never knew you had such strong faith!” That’s when I knew God’s presence was with me on that stage.

He guided me to speak the words necessary for both me and others. He enabled them to listen attentively to the message I conveyed.

Since then, every time I step onto a stage, I offer a prayer. “God, help me convey the message you want them to hear. Open their ears and minds to accept what they need. I’m grateful for your guidance!”

Despite my discomfort with attention, being on stage is where I thrive because I know it’s my purpose. I’m meant to assist others as much as possible!

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Get out there and take ACTION!

Get out there and take action

Taking an inch of action now will propel you closer to your goal than a mile of mere intervention ever could!

It’s about time we took action. How often have we heard this phrase? I’ve heard it countless times. So why do we struggle to heed it? I can’t pinpoint how long it took me to finally take the initiative and build my house. Or why I remained in the same job for another year or two, despite knowing I needed a change. Sure, dedication to our work is commendable, but was I truly benefiting anyone by staying in a job I no longer found fulfilling?

Throughout my life, these are the challenges I’ve grappled with continuously. I’d wager that if you delve a bit deeper, you’ll discover similar struggles within yourself. Today, our focus will be on initiating action and putting an end to procrastination.

There are seven straightforward steps. Determine the factors that are restraining your progress.
 
What’s impeding your ability to take action at this moment? Is it concerns about loved ones, fear of loss, or a lack of confidence? Pinpoint the obstacle and confront it directly. Only then will you be empowered to take decisive action.
 
Engage in prayer!
 
This might not align with your beliefs, but let me share that when I increased my prayer practice and surrendered to God, I experienced a profound influx of knowledge and, above all, peace. I vividly recall counseling someone on prayer once. They expressed, “Dan, I’m hesitant to pray because then everyone will know I’m a Christian!” Is that necessarily negative? It depends on who you aspire to be. I desire for everyone I encounter to recognize my steadfast Christian faith and commitment to living a righteous life. What I conveyed to him was this: “You can pray anywhere, anytime, and no one needs to be aware unless you choose to share. Whether your eyes are open or closed, whether you’re driving, conversing, sitting, standing, or lying down—it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you dedicate time to communicating with God.”
 

Pay attention and act decisively.

Listening serves as the initial step towards taking action and embracing substantial risks that can ultimately yield significant rewards. Tune in to your inner sentiments and instincts. If you sense the urge to reach out to someone, don’t hesitate to make that call promptly.

If your intuition prompts you to halt eating, then cease without delay. However, if you contemplate more daring actions, ensure you exercise caution and consider all safety measures thoroughly. Listen attentively and respond promptly.

Avoid prolonged deliberation over minor choices.

My rule of thumb is simple: if a decision won’t have a significant impact on my life in five years, I don’t dwell on it. Instead, I make a choice and move forward. What does this principle entail? When someone asks me where to dine, I suggest it without hesitation. If they inquire about a deadline, I provide a specific time.

Even when invited for lunch, I propose a concrete plan for the following day. These minor decisions won’t significantly alter my trajectory over time. However, decisions like starting a business, purchasing additional property, or acquiring a new vehicle are significant and warrant thorough consideration and research.

For immense risks, expect substantial rewards.

Have you ever tied the knot? Started a family? Have you purchased a home or a car? Pursued higher education or embarked on a career path? Each of these endeavors carries considerable risks, but they also offer immense rewards. Life-changing events necessitate a willingness to take risks. You cannot anticipate transformative shifts if you persist in the status quo.

To effect genuine change in your life, you must venture beyond your comfort zone. So, the next time an opportunity arises, scale that mountain, ask that special someone out—just leap.

Stop seeking approval.

Seeking permission, even from yourself, inhibits growth. It harkens back to childhood, when you had to ask for approval for every little thing. “Dad, can I have this candy bar?” Well, if you want the candy bar, just buy it! Who cares? Cease seeking validation from others before taking that leap of faith and advancing to the next level. I recall consulting a trusted advisor about whether I was ready to start a business.

Their response was, “I would hate to lose you, so I would say you can do anything as long as you don’t leave. Lol.” I was essentially asking for permission to take a risk. I was waiting for the perfect moment to take that next step. Now, don’t misunderstand me—I’m not suggesting that you shouldn’t communicate with your spouse or partner. That’s crucial. If you missed it, refer back to the section on prayer. That’s about communicating with the most important person in your life—at least in my life.

Failure is not an endpoint!

Thomas Edison encapsulated it perfectly when he said, “I did not fail once; I just found 10,000 ways not to create a lightbulb!” I’m not suggesting that you won’t encounter setbacks; rather, it’s essential not to perceive them as failures. Instead, view them as valuable learning opportunities. Admittedly, some of these “learning experiences” may come at a significant cost, but remember, money is just a transient aspect of life.

You entered this world without a penny, and you’ll depart it in the same manner. The crucial point is to acknowledge that mistakes are inevitable; however, don’t allow them to plunge you into despair. Maintain your composure and press forward. Taking risks entails encountering numerous learning experiences—it’s an inherent aspect of the journey. So, don’t let the fear of failure deter you from taking action today.

In a world brimming with individuals, aim to belong to the 1%. Be among those who proactively seize opportunities and take decisive action, rather than remaining among the 99% confined to mundane 8–5 jobs, loathing every moment. Start today and implement the necessary changes to enhance your life. Remember, time is the ultimate currency. While your time on this planet is finite, the potential to accumulate wealth is boundless.

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Getting in the right state to make GREAT decisions.

Getting in the Right State to Make Great Decisions

I got to see Tony Robbins speak at a live event for five hours! It was great. I took lots of notes—more than 50 pages in just four days. There’s so much I learned, but it would take forever to tell you everything.

I want to talk about one important thing. Before you decide anything, you need to get into a positive mindset.
 
If you’re fine with making simple choices and feeling lazy, then go ahead and keep sitting in your chair without any motivation.
 
But if you want to learn how to make really smart decisions with confidence, then keep reading this.
 
Now, turn up the volume and pick a super fun and fast song that you really like. Something like “Shake” by Mercy Me. Then, the first step is to stand up.
 
Stand up now. Shake your whole body. Why wait? Just do it! Seriously, shake your body.

Now that you’ve done that, jump a little. Jump higher, and keep jumping like you’re a kid at a trampoline park without any fear!

Stop looking at others; just jump. Now that you’ve done that, there’s one more thing I want you to do.
 
I know you might be wondering what people think. You might feel silly and think everyone’s watching. BUT WHO CARES?

If you want to make really smart decisions, you have to do things that others won’t.
Make a noise that makes you happy. Now make it louder. Even louder.
 
Did you do it? If not, you won’t feel the full impact. Now jump up and down again, like a kid playing in a mud puddle. Are you doing it?
 
Now, make that happy noise again. Louder. Even louder this time. Okay, sit down. Now, make some noise while you’re sitting. Move around like you did when you were standing up. Do it so much that you feel like standing up again.

Okay, now spend 10 minutes getting that task done. Make those important decisions you were struggling with earlier. I know what you’re thinking: there’s no way I’m doing what Dan just suggested.

Here’s the deal: It’s completely your choice whether you do it or not. But if you give it a try and it works, what have you lost? Maybe just looking a bit silly and making awesome decisions.
 
I have a rule in my life that I learned from Russell Brunson: if you don’t know him, search for him. I listen and do everything that successful people, who own a helicopter and have strong stage presence, tell me to do.

If it works for Tony Robbins, it can work for you. If it works for me, it can work for you too. 

The important thing is to believe that it will work. You need to get yourself in the right state—mentally, physically, and emotionally—before making any decisions, or else you won’t make really good ones.

At best, they’ll be just okay. Let me ask you something: Would you marry someone who’s just okay? absolutely not! You want someone amazing, not just average.

If we wouldn’t marry someone who’s just okay, why should we make decisions that are only okay? Ever since I learned this from Tony directly at a live event, I use it every single day. When I’m getting ready to teach a course, I apply it.
 
When I’m ready to write something, I do it. When we’re ready to buy another business, I do it. When I’m ready to go home and see my family, I do it.
 
Because if I’m not there for them, then I’m not living my happiest life. We only have one life, and we can decide how we want to live it. We can settle for just okay, or we can aim for excellence.
 
It’s up to us. Just like it’s up to us who we marry, where we work, and what we do.
Now it’s your turn to choose: Do you want to live a mediocre life, or do you want to live an extraordinary one? Personally, I’m giving it my all and living each day to the fullest.
 
There’s one more thing I really need to share with you. Are you ready? It’s pretty awesome.
Life is what we decide it to be. We can choose to be without money, lacking, busy, tired, hungry, thirsty, or unsatisfied.

Alternatively,

We can choose to feel happy, content, rich, fit, loyal, and in love. It’s completely up to us. And we decide that every day when we wake up.
 
One more thing to ask you quickly: Have you ever felt like you care about your partner, but maybe not in love with them anymore?
 
I think many of us have felt that way at some point in our relationships.
 
I’ve felt that way before. (I’m sure Jenna has too in the past. I haven’t always been the best husband and father. I’ve made mistakes. I’m grateful she’s forgiving.)
 
Can you think of something that used to be adorable but now bothers you?
 
It’s a decision. When you were in love, those things didn’t annoy you. They were actually cute things they did. But now that your feelings have changed, they’re not cute anymore. So, what can we do to make things better?
 
Decide right now to change how you feel. Do whatever you need to do to get into a good mood and stay there.
 
And when you begin to feel less happy, you have to choose to change how you feel. Not how others feel, but yourself.
 
Guess what? Once you change how you feel, the people around you will start to change too!
 
So, here’s to changing how we feel so we can always make really smart decisions.
 
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Getting out of Your Comfort Zone

Getting Out of Your Comfort Zone

“You never change your life until you step out of your comfort zone; change begins at the end of your comfort zone.”—Roy T. Bennett

When did you last purposely step out of your comfort zone? For me, it’s almost every day. Not always in big ways, like the first podcast I did, the first newsletter I made, or the first person I hired.

Some days it’s just about trying a new recipe for dinner, using a different pen, or wearing different shoes. You get the idea.

Every day, I deliberately do things that push me out of my comfort zone. You might wonder, why would you do that, Dan? What’s the point of making yourself uncomfortable?

The truth is, when you step out of your comfort zone, you’re helping yourself grow. And when you do it intentionally, you get to decide where you grow.

Think about it. If you want to improve at public speaking, the best thing you can do is get on other platforms, get interviewed, or join a group like Toastmasters and speak to a crowd.

If you want to improve and meet new clients, you could begin by saying “hi” or “how are you today?” to strangers in the store, on the street, or in a restaurant. Next time you eat out, try telling the waiter a bit about yourself. Practice introducing yourself to strangers.

If you don’t act on purpose, you might end up feeling uncomfortable in a way you don’t like. In any case, God has a way of nudging us out of our comfort zone from time to time.

I often get asked, “Dan, why do you keep pushing your comfort zone?”

My answer is straightforward. I push beyond my comfort zone because I want to grow. I enjoy making progress and moving forward. The best way to do that is by challenging yourself.

Here are some tips to help you step out of your comfort zone:

  • Make a list of something you’d like to achieve in the next year. This is helpful because if you don’t know what you want, it’s hard to start moving in the right direction.

Here are some ideas: talk to strangers, start a podcast, go live on Facebook or IGTV, talk to people of the opposite sex, create great presentations, speak in front of lots of people, and more.

  • Begin with something easy. If you want to speak in front of people, don’t start with a big event. For example, if you’ve never spoken in front of a group, don’t plan a massive event and make yourself the main speaker.

Begin with a small group, like 2–5 people, having drinks. Then, try speaking to a small and friendly group in a local organization, such as a Grange meeting. Next, give a presentation to children, like at your local school or to a group of 4-H kids. After that, organize your event and invite a small group of around 10–25 people. Then, speak at someone else’s event for their group. Finally, gradually speak in front of larger and larger groups until you feel comfortable with it.

  • Don’t wait; start today. One of our biggest problems as people is that we let fear control what we do.

When we’re scared to make a video and share it, we often delay it until we say, “Oh well, I guess we’re not supposed to make that video.” Instead of that, just do it right away.

When I started recording videos on my phone, it was scary! I mean, I was terrified. It was so difficult to press the record button. And after I recorded a few, it was even harder to share them.

After I shared them, I started getting feedback. Some friends commented on the videos, encouraging me to keep sharing knowledge. Now, a year later, I’m comfortable making those videos, and I don’t hesitate to post them. I’d encourage everyone to follow my YouTube channel.

  • Talk about your difficulties. It’s hard to admit where we struggle. For some reason, we’re wired to believe that others don’t have the same struggles as us.

We might believe that our older brother has everything figured out, but the truth is, we rely on each other for support. When you talk about your struggles, it helps clear your mind so you can focus on moving forward.

I remember after we built our house, my brother, who’s a skilled diesel mechanic, told me how much he admired my ability to design and build things. It’s a skill he didn’t have but wished he did.

So, what did we do? We began by teaming up to build a tack room in his barn. I led the project, making sure he understood everything.

We sat together and planned the room, made a list of what we needed, got the materials, and began building. He was uncomfortable the whole time and nervous until he could see the end. Then we knew he could do it.

You won’t believe what happened next. He called and said, “Hey, I need to build a deck and stairs for my back porch. I have the plans drawn up. Could you come and check them out?”

He got a lot more confident by trying something new once, so he was ready for more! When you talk about what’s hard for you, it’s easier for others to support you.

If you never talk about your struggles, how will anyone know what you need?

  • Before and after photos and comparisons. I used to not believe in these. Until one day, my wife secretly took a picture of our messy craft area before we started organizing it.

Then she took another picture after we finished the project, with all the workstations built and everything organized.

Wow, we made such a big difference in just a few days. It’s amazing to have something to compare, so you can see how much better you’ve become by stepping out of your comfort zone.

Those before and after comparisons encourage you to keep stepping out again and again. When I look back at the first videos, I shot a year ago compared to now, what a difference! I’ve learned where to look, when to shoot, about lighting, and so much more.

Never compare yourself to anyone except the person you were yesterday!

  • Get an accountability partner or join a group. When someone else knows your plan, they can help you stay on track.

A good idea is to schedule a weekly Zoom call with a group, so you can all help each other stay accountable for your goals.

This one scares a lot of people.

But if you handle it right, it’s not a bad thing at all. In our group, we never judge.

If someone doesn’t meet their goals for a week for stepping out of their comfort zone, we all ask what we can do to help, or we simply give them support by reminding them of how far they’ve come and that they can do it because they’ve done so much more in the past.

Hopefully, these tips will help you take uncomfortable action very soon. Let me know if you want to join our accountability group. I’d be happy to chat and see if you’d be a good fit for us.

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Giving Back

Giving Back

One of my latest favorite quotes goes like this: “When life gets better, don’t just elevate your standard of living; elevate your standard of giving.”

Often, we confine the concept of giving within the boundaries of financial transactions. Yet, the essence of giving transcends mere currency. It encompasses a rich tapestry of offerings: knowledge shared, time generously given, love expressed, and encouragement bestowed. Of course, financial contributions have their place, but true giving extends far beyond monetary realms, enriching both the giver and the recipient in immeasurable ways.

Take a moment to rewind to the last time someone bestowed upon you a gift. What was it exactly? Did its utility extend beyond the physical realm to provide genuine assistance? More importantly, what significance did it hold in your heart? Did its impact linger long after its initial receipt, or did its usefulness fade with time? And perhaps most intriguingly, even now, are you still uncovering valuable lessons from this token of generosity?

My wife and I have embarked on a new chapter of life, one unlike any we’ve experienced thus far. With our youngest child now nine years old and our oldest behind the wheel, we find ourselves navigating uncharted territory. This pivotal moment has prompted us to contemplate the future through a fresh lens, challenging us to reimagine our aspirations and priorities in ways we never previously considered.
 
In our journey, we’ve realized how many blessings we’ve received from a higher power—more than we ever expected. It’s a powerful reminder of how lucky we are. As we go through life right now, I’ve had some important insights.
 
One valuable lesson I’ve learned is the importance of giving back more than we receive. When we give back, we’re not just helping others; we’re also empowering them to pursue their dreams and aspirations. Just imagine a world where no one ever received any advice or encouragement—it’s hard to picture, isn’t it? 

My wife and I had the pleasure of attending a fundraiser for a local nonprofit organization—a Christian ministry dedicated to its cause. The event was nothing short of remarkable, offering us a glimpse into their core values and the impactful work they’re striving to achieve.
 
As the event drew to a close, I seized the opportunity to approach the CEO of the organization. Recognizing two key desires subtly hinted at throughout their presentation, I extended an offer to assist them in delving deeper into marketing strategies and expanding their audience reach.

Even though we weren’t in a position to make a hefty financial contribution, we refused to let that deter us from supporting their growth and progress.
The other day, I had the privilege of sitting down with a budding author who had just released her debut book and was eager to embark on the next chapter of her literary journey. Unsure of where to turn, she reached out to me, asking if I could spare a few moments to offer guidance and support.
 
Following our brief exchange, we decided to set aside some dedicated time to hash out a game plan for her next literary venture. Together, we delved into crafting a roadmap for her forthcoming book and even ignited the sparks of creativity by brainstorming the initial steps of her value ladder.
 
Here’s the thing: Giving back isn’t solely about money. It’s about the profound impact we can make, regardless of our financial situation. We give not out of expectation, but out of gratitude for the blessings bestowed upon us.
 
Not. Our motivation to give stems from recognizing the abundance of blessings we’ve received and will continue to receive. It’s a profound truth: When we extend a hand to others, whether through acts of kindness or generosity, the universe has a way of repaying us in ways far beyond what we could have imagined.
 
Ah, the early days of our business venture are etched in my memory. I recall a particularly memorable encounter with my boss, who suggested, “You should be pitching this to everyone you meet, especially during work trips.” It was an unexpected piece of advice, considering the source. Little did I know, deep down, he harbored ulterior motives, aiming to paint me as conflicted and unfit for the job. Needless to say, I steered clear of his counsel, trusting my instincts instead.

Rather than heeding the advice of my boss, I turned to the wisdom of those around me who preached the gospel of hustle, even when off the clock. Nights and weekends became sacred times devoted to building our website from scratch. Lunch and dinner meetings became opportunities for enlightenment as we soaked up knowledge from anyone willing to share. Despite financial strains that made affording groceries a challenge, we prioritized treating our mentors to meals, recognizing the value of investing in relationships and knowledge acquisition.

We didn’t just listen passively; we absorbed their advice like sponges, scribbling down notes and dissecting the crucial tasks laid out before us. But we didn’t stop there—we took bold, decisive action.
 
Similar to the concept of giving back, when someone extends a hand or spots an opportunity to enhance another’s business or well-being, it’s imperative to spring into action.
 
Quit spectating from the sidelines of giving back; cease the excuses of waiting until you have more money or until your financial situation improves. 
 

Contribute to a meaningful cause with a donation that leaves a lasting impact.

Empower someone by sharing your valuable knowledge and insights.
Boost the spirits of those lacking confidence with words of encouragement that ignite their self-belief.

Don’t wait—seize the opportunity to give back now, because your actions have the power to propel others forward!
So, what are you waiting for? Take action and make a difference today!
 
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Goals, how to set and achieve any goal!

Goals How to Set and Achieve Any Goal

Today, we’re diving into the art of setting achievable goals and making them a reality within a realistic timeframe.

Goals are integral to both business and personal life, serving as the driving force behind our achievements. From my early days growing up in the countryside, I’ve been setting goals for myself. Some were commendable, while others served as valuable lessons in crafting realistic goals and setting achievable deadlines.

When I conduct my goal-setting seminars, the first step I advocate is to establish a timeframe for the goals you’re about to outline. I categorize these timeframes into three distinct categories: Distant Future, Near Future, and NOW.

Distant Future Goals: These are aspirations that you aim to realize over several years. They encompass long-term endeavors such as retirement planning, entrepreneurship, marriage, homeownership, or acquiring a vacation property. Distant Future Goals require patience and consistent effort, as they cannot be achieved overnight.

Near Future Goals: These goals are attainable within the next six months to a year. Examples include purchasing a home, tying the knot, re-entering the dating scene, clearing credit card debts, organizing the garage, completing ongoing projects, transitioning to a new job, or launching a business venture. While they’re not immediately feasible, they demand thoughtful planning and preparation over a few months.

NOW Goals: NOW Goals are actionable objectives that you can accomplish today. They range from simple tasks like starting a diet, exercising, taking a shower, or upgrading to a smartphone, to more significant milestones like getting married, buying a house, switching jobs, or initiating a social media business page. NOW Goals require minimal contemplation or effort and can be executed promptly.

You may have noticed that certain goals overlap across categories, such as buying a house, starting a business, changing jobs, or getting married. This reflects the diversity of our individual circumstances and readiness levels. What may be suitable for one person might not align with another’s current situation or aspirations. Whether you’re eager to dive into marriage or entrepreneurship or prefer to take a more cautious approach, the key is to tailor your goals to suit your unique journey and timeline.

Our goals are fluid, shaped by our life circumstances and desires. Now that we’ve categorized our goals, it’s time to delve into setting them. But how do we ensure our goals are attainable?

Attainability means crafting goals that are within reach. I once had someone walk into my office declaring, “Dan, my goal is to sell $1 million in my first year!” I admired his ambition, but he was stepping into uncharted territory. I had two choices: fuel his passion or guide him towards setting realistic NOW and Near Future Goals.

While his distant goal was admirable, the challenge lay in setting immediate objectives. Together, we established a NOW goal of securing one sale in the first month, followed by a Near Future Goal of five contracts monthly. The distant future shifted to selling 15 contracts monthly. By shifting the focus from dollar amounts to contract sales, his goals became more tangible and achievable.

To set impactful goals, begin with your distant aspirations. Then, reverse engineer them, aligning your immediate objectives with your long-term vision. Each smaller accomplishment brings you closer to your grand objective.

Take a moment to envision yourself five years from now. Where are you? What are you doing? Who are you with? What surrounds you? Every detail matters. Now, jot it all down. This visualization is crucial.

Now, can you see your distant goal clearly? For me, it’s lounging in jeans and a soft shirt, feeling the sand between my toes as waves crash nearby. In the backdrop, our vacation home sits, embraced by lush greenery, offering solace to my family. My wife is by my side, our children, now grown, relishing this time with their own families. Financial worries have dissipated, thanks to the success of our businesses. We work diligently but savor every moment of our lives.

This distant goal encapsulates the essence of where, what, and who. Now, it’s time to break it down and work towards making it a reality.

For our distant goal, the near future objectives encompass starting hands-off businesses, nurturing family ties, acquiring a beach house, mastering surfing, instilling faith in my children, and maintaining a healthy marriage. These are just a few examples.

Breaking down these near future goals into actionable steps, our NOW goals propel us towards the ultimate destination. Let’s take “staying close to family” as an example. NOW goals include vacationing as a family, engaging in family games, having regular family dinners, balancing the roles of friend and parent to our children, actively supporting their endeavors, expressing love and affection, listening attentively, and fostering an environment where they feel valued.

Accountability is crucial in goal setting. Sharing our goals with a trusted individual who can kindly inquire about our progress keeps us on track. A simple question like, “How’s family game night going?” serves as a reminder of our commitment.

These are just the foundational steps for setting realistic and achievable goals. Stay tuned for more in-depth discussions on goal setting in future blogs.

If you or your team are interested in goal-setting training, feel free to contact us. We’re here to assist you in setting attainable professional or personal goals tailored to your needs.

Now, it’s your turn. Email me your goals at dan@eclipse-dot.com. Let’s share our aspirations and hold each other accountable.

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God’s timing, not your timing

God’s timing, not your timing

Today, our focus is on trusting God’s timing over our own. I have plenty of stories illustrating how events unfold according to His timing, not mine.

However, I want to share my journey of starting a business with God. Even if business isn’t your thing, I assure you that this story will resonate with you.

You might have heard bits of this story before, but today, I’m delving deeper than ever. Let me begin with my upbringing. I want to emphasize that I love both my parents dearly and acknowledge their exceptional parenting skills, especially considering that I was a challenging child to raise—I was quite different from either of them.

I challenged authority every chance I got, and I could argue with anyone—even a fence post—and come out on top every time! I’d keep arguing until everyone was worn out, including the fence post. Funny, right?

My dad, much like me, was quite vocal with his opinions (for a good laugh, follow him on Facebook!). I grew up hearing him say, “I would never want to run my own company because then I’d have to worry about everyone else’s livelihood. I wouldn’t want all those families depending on me for work.”

I held onto those beliefs for a long time, even echoing them until I was around 30 years old. I used to say the same thing: “I would never want to own a business. I just want to go to work, do my job, and go home.” I understood where my dad was coming from, but it wasn’t aligned with how God designed me.

And that’s perfectly fine! It’s wonderful how God intentionally designed each of us uniquely, isn’t it?

Here’s the key realization: God wanted me to learn many valuable lessons so that I could become an exceptional leader, not just for our company but also for our community and my family. Curious about what I mean by “tribe”? (Check out the devotional on tribes.)

Moving on…

God employed various roles and positions to mold me into the individual I am today. If my dad hadn’t planted that idea in my mind during my teenage years—that I didn’t want to own a business—I wouldn’t be who I am today. Reflecting on the roles God placed me in, each one has contributed to shaping my character.

During my time at Coke, I learned the fundamentals of vending machine mechanics, and honestly, it was a humbling experience. In my teenage years, I was quite arrogant.

In high school, we took a test that supposedly determined our ideal roles. (Personally, I think it’s a flawed test.) According to the results, it was suggested that I consider a career as a vending machine repairman.

At that moment, it felt like a significant wake-up call for me. (Looking back, I realized I used to look down on certain positions, which isn’t how I see things now.)

God led me to work as a vending machine repair technician—a job with wonderful colleagues in a fantastic company.

Then, I found myself in a hands-on role that introduced me to leadership. I worked at a feed mill (Basin COOP), where in my first year, I nearly faced dismissal multiple times. I even had heated debates with my immediate supervisor (now a close friend), and I successfully hired two part-time employees to assist me with bagging tasks.

To this day, one of them remains one of my closest friends.

If you ask Brian, he’d probably agree that my leadership skills needed work—maybe more than a little, maybe a lot!

Afterward, I found myself in various roles across different companies. Each position taught me valuable lessons that God intended for me to learn.

The major issue was my certainty about being meant for leadership, yet I couldn’t secure a genuine leadership role.

Then, one day, I surrendered to God, saying, “Okay, God, something’s missing. I trust that you’re grooming me for something significant. I’m handing over the reins from now on.”

I decided to find contentment in my current position, but I remained open to seizing any opportunity God presented without hesitation.

He suggested I explore becoming a CDL tester.

“God, I’ve spent my entire adult life trying to move away from trucks. Why would I do that?”

However, I listened. I reached out to the state of New Mexico since I was working there at the time. I discovered that to become a tester in New Mexico, one had to be part of the government or affiliated with a school.

Despite working for the government, it wasn’t something they would have approved.

So, I delved into Colorado’s regulations and found them feasible, albeit after jumping through numerous hoops. After praying, I tackled those hoops one by one. It took 1.5 years from my initial research until I was accepted into a CDL tester course.

Interestingly, I didn’t view this venture as a business initially; perhaps God had a purpose in blinding me to that notion. Subsequently, I joined the fantastic team at Crossfire, who hired me to develop a CDL training program.

I spent 5.5 fulfilling years at Crossfire, relishing the culture and the fantastic relationship with owner Ezra Lee. During my tenure, my role evolved from a static position to one involving extensive travel.

Up until then, the longest I’d been away from Jenna since we married was about 2 days, and that only happened once or twice.

When my responsibilities changed, I felt a mix of excitement and fear. My first trip was a 2-week tour from Durango to El Paso, then west Texas, San Antonio, and back up to Colorado.

I’m sure some of you might think, “What a wuss!” And honestly, I can be a bit of a wuss, haha. It was the toughest thing I’d done in a while. But with weekly trips, it gradually became easier.

As time passed, it became more challenging because I felt disconnected from my kids’ lives. Being a weekend dad wasn’t what I had in mind.

I adjusted my activities while traveling. Initially, I watched shows on planes and listened to music in airports. In the evenings at hotels, I’d chat with Jenna for an hour and then watch TV.

But I shifted from that routine to listening to business podcasts, taking notes, and reading books during travel time.

During the evenings, I dedicated time to crafting plans to spend more time at home with Jenna and our kids. We launched a company, and I created its website, product lists, and pricing strategies after extensive customer research.

I would finish my day job around 6 or 7 p.m., then work on our business until midnight or 1 a.m.—it was a slow process. It took over a year to gain solid ground, and even then, launching was nerve-wracking.

Jenna noticed my growing enthusiasm for our business. Eventually, I had a heart-to-heart with my employer, expecting the worst.

Instead, he gave me a few books to read and encouraged me, saying, “As long as this doesn’t interfere with your work here, I support your entrepreneurial aspirations. Just remember your commitments with us and prioritize building strong relationships.”

Throughout my journey, Ez continued to offer incredible advice. The essence of my story is that I wasn’t ready to be a business owner until I faced the challenges God placed in my path. It was all about shaping me.

While I always knew I was meant for leadership, I never imagined leading so many people. The impact of Eclipse DOT and God’s First Life is remarkable, and I believe God still has much to teach me.

Looking back, had God put me in a leadership role early on, I might never have started Eclipse DOT or God First Life. I would have likely remained stagnant. God knew I was destined for more, just as you are.

Believe that God’s timing far surpasses ours. If it were up to me, I would have been a leader straight out of high school and missed out on becoming who I am today!

God is great all the time.
All the time, God is great!

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Have Passion as a Leader

HAVE PASSION AS A LEADER

Leadership involves more than personal passion; it’s crucial to discover what passions drive those around you.

Understanding and supporting the passions of your team members contributes to effective leadership.

Lack of passion hinders success. Use these tips to discover what fuels others’ passions, paving the way for mutual understanding and collaboration. 

Tip one: Pause for a moment and observe your surroundings. Notice a lovely office adorned with family pictures? Witness cheerful colleagues working harmoniously towards a shared goal, enjoying their time together. Take in the breathtaking scenery outside the window. 
 
Keep searching until you discover something that brings you joy. Once in a positive mood, explore what excites others. It’s time to inquire about their passions and interests.
 
Tip Two: Stand up and take a stroll to the break room. Greet everyone you encounter on your way. Simple actions like saying hello can create a positive atmosphere and foster connections in your workplace.
 
Choose someone you don’t usually talk to and inquire about their day. The key is to listen attentively, then ask a follow-up question related to the information they shared with you.
 
Tip Three: Practice Step 2 six times daily. You may wonder why I suggest taking six brief walks a day. There are a couple of good reasons for that, which will contribute to your overall well-being and energy levels.

Getting up and moving improves your mental state and boosts blood flow to your brain. This is the first reason why incorporating physical activity into your routine is beneficial for your overall well-being.
 
Secondly, it helps you be seen as a leader. By engaging with everyone, they won’t hesitate to approach you with their concerns. This fosters an open environment where people feel comfortable seeking guidance and support.

After consistently doing this for 3–4 days or a week, you’ll notice people opening up more during your walks. Building this routine creates a friendly atmosphere, encouraging others to share and connect with you.
 
Soon, you’ll learn that Dwayne has four kids. His daughter is in the student council, his son excels in baseball, and he’s crafting a go-kart for another son. Additionally, he has a daughter who adores basketball. Get ready to learn more about your colleagues during these interactions.
 
Discover Dwayne’s passions or family details. You might also learn that Marsha enjoys video editing, while Joe has a passion for numbers. Engaging with colleagues can reveal interesting aspects of their lives and interests.
 
The key is recognizing everyone’s passion. As a leader, connecting with these passions earns respect. So, get up, leave your office, and take a walk. It’s a simple step, but it can greatly enhance your leadership by fostering connections with your team’s passions.
 
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